Abuse

The Big Understatement

The God / The Universe / Deity of Choice / Random Circumstances struck oddly, so I thought I’d post and talk about this for a moment.  See, I was getting ready to write this week’s article for Advanced Mobile Healthcare, and I look at the list of topics we came up with last year (I …

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Why I Don’t Try and Impress… Well, Anyone Actually.

Introduction This in one in what’s probably going to be a small series of posts looking back at old relationships.  I’ve been married twice, and have had a number of long term relationships, and then there’s the various short term relationships (which I have very little interest in, and haven’t had much affect on my …

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Our Friends Are a Mirror of Ourselves

Introduction Sometimes we give a somewhat sinister amount of control to our significant others when it comes to who we call friends, without ever knowing it.  That’s a really bad sign. If you haven’t already, be sure to head over and read part 1 of this series of posts, in particular the Introduction section that …

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When the Mirror is Broken – Isolation From Your Friends is Bad

Introduction Our friends are a good indicators of our relationships.  Not each friend, individually, but our friends when taken as a whole can tell you a lot about where you’re at in a relationship. If you haven’t already, be sure to head over and read part 1 of this series of posts, in particular the …

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Made an Agreement? Keep it in Your Pants. (Infidelity)

Introduction Relationships are a contract, informally negotiated by two people who, for one reason or another, want to spend their time together.  Marriages have a more formalized contract – marriage vows, etc. – that both parties agree to.  But, any romantic relationship has some sort of boundaries and proper behavior that each party is supposed …

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Tearing You Down

Introduction One of the best things about a good partner:  they’ll always build you up.  They’ll help you traverse rivers, climb mountains, explore the depths, hold your hand when you’re sick, and know your deepest fears.  Unfortunately, the wrong partner can ignore the first part, and use the last bit there against you. If you …

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The Symphony of Some Relationships: Yelling, Screaming, and Anger

Introduction I am a communication person.  I wasn’t always that way, but I’ve always been a talker.  These days, I’m good with a sit-down conversation in a relationship to see where each one is at.  To talk about things of substance, and even talk about feelings, rather than just “stuff”.  That’s communication.  Screaming, on the …

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Why Can’t You Just Be Who I Want You To Be?

Introduction We fall in love with our partner because of so many things.  Their attitude, their caring, their integrity, the way they make us feel. The list is too long to put here.  But, what about those things we’re not a fan of?  Or that our partner isn’t a fan of in us? If you haven’t …

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A Side Note About Danger Levels

Introduction I mention in the introduction section of pretty much every post that he and she is replaceable in these posts.  There’s a part of abuse that I haven’t experienced, and it’s unlikely I would experience:  physical abuse, and the fear of being injured, or worse.  It’s also the part where “he” and “she” aren’t …

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It’s All Your Fault & I Wouldn’t Do This If You Didn’t…

Introduction It’s weird:  the yelling, screaming, lies, manipulations, all of that stuff – it’s not something the person who did them take responsibility for.  Instead, it’s because you made them do it. If you haven’t already, be sure to head over and read part 1 of this series of posts (this is part 8), in particular …

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Warping Your Reality: Gaslighting

Introduction Imagine if someone else could be able to affect your perception of reality, and your memories?  That would be pretty weird, wouldn’t it?  It happens. If you haven’t already, be sure to head over and read part 1 of this series of posts (this is part 9), in particular the Introduction section that puts this …

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The Lies, Manipulations, and Control

Introduction In some ways, these topics are already covered as part of the larger story arc – but, let’s stop and take a closer look at the for a moment. If you haven’t already, be sure to head over and read part 1 of this series of posts (this is part 10), in particular the Introduction …

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What It Did

Introduction It’s not that everything changed overnight for me.  The things that happened, they didn’t all happen in one day, and the effects were slow and gradual, until suddenly they weren’t. If you haven’t already, be sure to head over and read part 1 of this series of posts (this is part 10), in particular the …

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Davis Strikes Back

Introduction So, how does one go to war with one’s self, and one’s past, and the things done to them?  Damned good question, and I had to find – or, I suppose, create – an answer that fit me. If you haven’t already, be sure to head over and read part 1 of this series …

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